You Can't Be Someone You're Not

By Issy Goode - 17:28

I think this is one of the most important lessons I've ever learnt, and it took me 20 years to manage to understand it. I spent a long time liking things because other people did, following the crowd, doing what I thought I was supposed to do and what I thought people expected of me.

But suddenly I realised I didn't have to try and be someone else any more.
Do you ever find yourself wishing you looked like another person? Had the figure of someone else? The brains? The life? If you spend all your time wishing to be someone you can't be, you'll never be your own person. Because, whilst you spend the time acting like the person you're trying to create, you don't even realise you have your own qualities, you don't realise that you don't always want to do the things your perfect creation is expected to, you don't wear the clothes that suit you as a person, because you're dressing to be someone you're not. 

In life you'll always find people better looking than you, smarter than you, having achieved more at your age, but that doesn't mean they're actually any better as a person. Everyone has a different life, some are born with a silver spoon, some with talent to get them wherever they want, and others are born into tough situations or mind numbingly normal lives. You can't change the life you're born into, you can only build upon it and be the you you want to be, not the person you want to be. By being yourself you can achieve all your own greatest goals, you can climb the ladder to success and you don't have to pretend to be someone you're not whilst doing it.

In the past I never used to challenge peoples opinions. I'd start off saying something and when they'd argue against it, I'd instantly back down. Because I was so afraid I was wrong I became a person that just let people walk all over me. I've come to realise I'm stronger than that and getting rid of people in my past has certainly helped me to let go of the person I was acting like, and allowed me to see my true self and my true worth. And everyone deserves to see that. 

There's enough fake people in the world, people who hide things from themselves and don't truly understand what they want in life but you don't have to be one of them. The more honest you are with yourself, the more you'll be yourself. And if people don't like you for who you are, are they even worth having in your life?

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  1. I think this a great post. You're dead right - the sooner we stop comparing to others, the sooner we start enjoying our lives. One of those things that is definitely easier said than done! xxx

    1. Thank you! It is so tough to do! But I realised when I was awing over people's lives in Gossip Girl (even though it's a show, people still live like that!) that really we should all be our own inspiration. If you do things that make you proud, you inspire yourself to continue doing good things. Looking to others when we need to is different, but pining after someone else's life shows how dissatisfied you are with your own which I think is a horrible way to feel xxx

  2. Great post:) I always just focus on being a good person and being kind and making a difference - that way I know my life is important. Also speaking up for what you believe is the best thing! xo

    1. That's the best way to do it! Good people are lacking in this world and I think it's so important to be kind :) Very true xx


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