What are your thoughts on...

By Issy Goode - 16:50

Whilst I'm shut away in my room with my nose in books and the smell of coffee constantly lingering in the air, I've had little time to even think about writing a blog post, but whilst revising for my exam on the representation of women in Hawthorne's short story 'The Birthmark' and also re-watching the film Romance for my 2,500 word film essay, I got thinking about how women feel about their physical appearance and what kind of affect partners can have on this.

I don't usually discuss this kind of topic but whilst it's January and body image seems to be on the mind of almost everyone, I thought it'd be something a bit different that could get a discussion going.

In both the texts I've been studying, the women don't have much respect for themselves, particularly the protagonist of Romance, who feels physically unloved by her boyfriend and allows other men to objectify her, yet constantly criticises the way in which men treat her. I found this pretty ironic but perhaps it's just something I don't understand. Marie (the protagonist) blames her boyfriend's constant rejection of her sexual advances for her self-loathing and the disconnection she feels from her body, and Georgiana in 'The Birthmark' chooses to have her birthmark removed because her husband sees it as 'the sole token of human imperfection' - she was happy to do this because her husband loved her soul, he just didn't love her for her looks, and she of course, wanted to be perfect for him.


My questions, influenced by these two texts, are: do you feel your perception of your body rests upon how a male feels about it? Do you change things for a partner because it's what he likes? If your partner told you about a flaw or imperfection that had never bothered you before, would you do something about it to make them happy? And visa versa for males too, would you change for your partner?

I know in the past if a boyfriend has liked something I do with my hair, I do it more often, or if he doesn't like a piece of clothing I own, I wear it less often. I once stopped wearing quite so much make up for a boyfriend who liked 'natural' girls who later criticised me for 'no longer making an effort'.

So, when do you think changing the little things about yourself to please a partner becomes too much?

If this post appears to have somewhat of a feminist flair to it, it's proof that my revision is truly submersing me. Which, on the plus side, means it's working!


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  1. Once went out with a guy who would go on and on about how turned on he was by prominent hip bones and collar bones. I ended up on a diet of tinned veg trying to get them and was the most malnourished and miserable I've ever been - won't be going there again!
    Megan x | MeganRoisinn

    1. God that's horrible! It's strange what we'll do for someone we're with, but it's good that you go out of that! Hope you're all healthy now :) x

  2. It's awful how women often see themselves as so much less when listening others opinions and ones that get stuck in your head are often the ones from people who supposedly love you or care about it. Most often it comes close to a form of emotional abuse sometimes without the other person intending it to happen.
    Ps your ex sounds like a right knob ;-) xxx you're gorgeous with or without make up and I hope you've learnt to do what the heck you like so long as you're not hurting anyone including yourself! You closet feminist you ;) xxx

    1. Agreed! I think it's because you value their opinion so much, that you'll do almost anything to make sure they still are attracted to you and the lie. Haha I'm definitely learning as I get older, best to put yourself first when it comes to your looks and body and stuff everyone else's opinion! Aha shhhhh ;) xxx


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